One should act in consonance with the way of heaven and earth, which is enduring and eternal. The superior man perseveres long in his course, adapts to the times, but remains firm in his direction and correct in his goals.
- I Ching, Chinese Book of Changes (B.C. 1150?)
This is Rock Hudson. He was a bit before my time and I don’t think I’ve ever seen a movie he starred in, but I do remember very clearly in 1985 when news broke that he had died of AIDS, and that’s when I first became truly aware of the real story of who Rock Hudson was and the secret life he had lived.
Thirty years ago, when I was a teenager, my first reaction was, “He was gay! That’s so gross!” Anyone who tells you that most heterosexuals in America back in the eighties didn’t have that same knee-jerk repulsion to gay people is lying. Back in the day, if someone were to seriously call you out for being gay, almost any straight guy would be willing to fight to prove you wrong. That’s just the way it was.
So yeah, I’d be less than honest not to admit that back then, my first thought was, “Ewww, that Rock Hudson guy was a fudge packer,” but even at that young age after hearing about the sham marriage and the straight persona he had to put on, I can also remember thinking, “That sucks he had to pretend he was straight just to land acting roles.”
How much the world has changed in thirty short years! Sure, in the cultures where macho and false bravado rule – I’m speaking of a good portion of blacks, Hispanics and rednecks – things still are the same as they were decades ago where the surest, quickest way to start a fight is to accuse a man of being gay, but we live in an America now where 60% of Americans support same-sex marriage, so the debate is pretty much over. Give it up anti-gay crusaders, you will never tip the scales back in your favor.
I think of being the teenager I was in the 80s and how it used make me shudder with revulsion to think of what gay people do, but now I feel even more heterosexual than I was then because now I know who I am with complete assuredness, so the thought of two men buggering each other affects me not one iota.
Here’s the one thing that’s really starting to grate on my nerves, though – I’m happy for the gays, hurray for them, but I’m getting very tired of the fact that the former Bruce Jenner is getting an award from ESPN for having a sex change when the born-a-he, now-a-she hasn’t competed as an athlete in almost 40 years while double-amputee Iraq war vet Noah Galloway is killing it in 58-hour death races and basketball star Lauren Hill raised money to fight cancer before dying and somehow they were both deemed lesser heroes than a guy who did nothing more than opt for sex change surgery.
I’m getting tired of the fact that every fifth or sixth commercial now has to feature a gay couple, I’m getting tired of the fact that just about every TV show and movie has to have a gay character or some “shocking” scene with two girls kissing each other.
It’s all become completely played out.
True equality for the 2.3% of LGBT in America will have really arrived when the shrinking minority of gay haters are completely ignored. True equality for the LGBT will be when every sitcom no longer feels they need to add the obligatory gay character. True equality for the LGBT will be when it’s not even worth mentioning the next time some pro athlete or celebrity comes out.