In the world's broad field of battle, In the bivouac of Life, Be not like dumb, driven cattle! Be a hero in the strife.
- Longfellow, American Poet (1807-1882)
When I think of little quips of wisdom about marriage, the one that stands out the most in my mind is the addage, “Never go to bed mad.” (To which Phyllis Diller once added, “Stay up and then try to fight.”)
As seemingly unrealistic as it might sound, to never go to bed mad, the reason it sticks with me is because when I’ve heard it spoken, it’s usually coming from someone with thirty or more years of experience, giving it a whole lot of credibility.
Now if you know my wife and me personally, I’m probably the last person you would come to for marriage advice because, well, let’s just say it’s been a timultuous eleven years we’ve had together, but even from that perspective, you can often stumble upon some wisdom that may be well worth sharing.
So for the first time at this blog, I share my own deep thought on marriage:
There will be many times when the least productive thing you can do is insist on inserting your own comment. If she’s on a roll, let her roll. Try to keep the ears open and definitely keep the mouth shut.
Or more succintly:
Let her speak her piece until she’s exhausted.
If you happen to have mastered the art of the snide remark, this is an especially valuable revelation, although as with most bits of wisdom, it’s much easier to know it than it is to abide by it.