Letters from the Lunar Outpost

today is not yesterday: we ourselves change; how can our Works and Thoughts, if they are always to be the fittest, continue always the same? Change, indeed is painful; yet ever needful; and if Memory have its force and worth, so also has Hope.
- Carlyle, Scottish Author and Philosopher (1795-1881)

I think most people would agree that there’s such a thing as a healthy amount of racial pride a person can carry with themselves.  I myself would even say it’s preferable for people to know their background and take pride in their heritage.

Some would argue that point I’m sure, for instance, many people have been indoctrinated to associate racial pride with nightmarish images of say, torchlit rallies in 1930s Germany, but the ironic thing is, some of those very same people trained to be fearful of racial or hereditary pride would be the first people to cheer on all the lovely people at the hometown gay parade. If a gay person can take a healthy amount of pride in who they are, can’t we agree there’s such a thing as a healthy amount of pride for all of us?

I once heard a black comedian talking about how he’d watch the news and a story would come on about a burglary or a rape in the neighborhood and the first thing he’d say to himself was, “Don’t be black, don’t be black, don’t be black!”

I know most Muslims in America have been saying the same thing to themselves even before 9/11. I had an Arab girlfriend at the time of the Oklahoma City bombing in 1995 and remember quite distinctly her outrage and mine as well when the first reports surfaced of how some Arab in a turban was spotted near the scene, only to have the truth turn out to be that the evil had been delivered in the form of some deluded white boy whose name isn’t even worth repeating.

Not long after the 9/11 attacks, I can imagine Arabs and Muslims across America, hanging on every syllable of the names being released in the Beltway sniper attacks in 2002, the collective sound of the news as it came across the networks and the thoughts of Arabs and Muslims across America probably sounding something like this:

“Police have released the names of the two suspects arrested in connection with the Beltway sniper shootings . . .”

“John . . .”


“Allen . . .”

Thank God!



I feel the exact same way. Whatever the news story is, if it’s bad news, I’m telling myself, just don’t let it be white. Do not let it be white.

Which leads me to my disgust at all these recent spree killings and the much longer history of white people and serial killings.

Sure, there are exceptions to every rule, as just mentioned, there were the Beltway sniper killings, the was guy who killed all those kids in Atlanta in the late 70s and early 80s (and I know these assholes’ names, I just don’t even think they’re worthy of any mention) but once you get past a few exceptions, why does it have to be that every time we hear about another mass shooting, you know it’s going to be some white, deranged loser?

It’s a human tragedy first and foremost, let’s make that perfectly clear, but I have to take this especially personal as I myself am white and have been described by some as deranged, but I do make the one caveat that there’s a very big difference between my loner tendencies and those of the losers who tried feebly to strike out at the world by ending their lives in a killing spree.

I know the profile. I hate to admit it, but I am the profile. Upper-middle-class, intelligent / nerdy, ostracized . . . miserable doesn’t even begin to describe my high school experience. I kid you not, every day I dreaded the prospect of lunch time and having to take it alone in the library because that was better than having to sit by yourself without any friends for everyone to see out in the quad. I hated each and every day to the point where I came out of high school like a victim of P.T.S.D. and I mean no offense to people who have actually served in combat, but at my mental state as a young teenager before I got shipped off to that Mormon prison camp (ahem, reform school) in Utah, I really do think I was mentally like a combat victim: numb, shell-shocked and mentally-scarred.

For the two guys especially who picked on me mercilessly for no reason other than they just could . . . I mean, there were these two guys, I didn’t even know who they were when they started picking on me, everyone else knew who they were, because they were somewhere in the upper-echelon of the social scene, or the “soshes” as we called them at our school, but I wasn’t even in that scene, so I had no idea who they were when they started with me. One day, out of the blue, they just started laying into me about the size of my head and my haircut, calling me “Frankenstein”, and from then on, it was just merciless, they were calling me Frankie in P.E. class, making my life hell every day in junior high to the point where I was so beaten down, by the time junior high was done and high school started, I didn’t feel I had any chance whatsoever of having anything resembling a normal social life in high school. They were bullies in the classic sense of the word, and this was long before the word got overused and played-out.

I’m not going to name names, but the great irony in my story (and their’s to some degree) is that these two people went on to become the two most famous (and we’re talking “uber-famous”) of all the graduates of Lincoln Junior High and Corona del Mar High School. (And no, I’m not talking about Kelly McGillis or Lars Ulrich and yeah, you can get your restraining orders out on me if you want, but I’m totally over it.)

The two most ruthless of my junior high tormentors are actually famous, and I actually did have Columbine-type of thoughts with them at the very center of it. (And this is before Columbine and before they got famous, so these weren’t copycat thoughts I was latching on to or a fixation on making myself a household name.)

That’s all ancient history now and you may wonder why I even would even want to recount it, but I feel no shame in doing so, one, because it was a blessing to be that beaten down and humbled socially in school because it gave me a truly Christian view that every single one of us is no better than the other in the eyes of God, and two, because I survived it. I survived that shit. Most importantly, if there’s any one out there who has thoughts of lashing back out at the world, I can speak to you now as someone who knows how it feels to be kicked that far to the side of the social road and that I myself at one time could imagine seeking that same sort of vengeance.

You may be a loner in high school, that doesn’t make you a loser. You have no idea how much things can change once you get out. There’s a good chance you’ll end up shocked, maybe even a little disappointed at just how normal your life ends up. That’s okay, there’s no reason you have to stay so perfectly normal.

And you may have been a loner in high school and you might never end up anything close to normal. That’s okay too, as a matter of fact, many of the greatest achievements in human history came from people who never even had a hint of anything normal in their lives.

You can make it through that and never have to be embarrassed of how awkward or weird people might have thought you were back in junior high and high school and if you make it through, you can wear that like a badge of pride.

Don’t do something that will forever put you in the lowest league of embarrassments to the human race. If you’re seriously considering going on a killing spree, just consider whether you really want to go out like those two losers at Columbine, whose names aren’t even worthy of being repeated by anyone. You don’t want to be like that loser in Aurora, who could have just killed himself alone and maybe even gotten some sympathy from the rest of the world in doing so, but instead, he made himself into a shit stain on the underwear of history, the lowest of the low, an unimaginative parody of outrage, a filthy sponge that soaked up one too many Hollywood films and somehow thought that would be cool to just shoot up a bunch of random strangers. No man, all he did was embarrass himself and his family name and thankfully I can’t even remember that loser’s name any more.

Don’t be that guy. Especially you, white people, because obviously you need to hear it the most and you’re embarrassing the hell out of the rest of us. Talk about the feebleness of first-world people and their first-world problems.

We can even have a debate on whether suicide might be wrong or whether it might be something a person has a right to choose for themselves, but do not be that guy whose final statement was some pathetic attempt to lash out at a world which will only remember you with disgust and forget your name sooner than you can even imagine.

Find another way of channeling your pain and your grievances with the world. That is not how you want to make a name for yourself.

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8 Responses to White People and Spree Killing

  • In retrospect to my bully career in high school , due to the reading of this article, I am truly remorseful. This has opened my eyes to the senseless, “innocent” name calling that I participated in during my adoloscent career of damaging the lives of others. I am so thankful to God that He has opened my eyes to the reality of the pain caused by meaningless retribution to defenseless others.

    Thank you Mikey for helping me to become more like Christ in my daily walk!!!
    You are awesome and I really appreciate your heart in this matter. Keep being vulnerable,
    so others can gain strength!


    • Ron, you were an awesome guy even back in high school, Steitz was the only one who could have been described as an asshole, but I truly miss that guy, so sad we never got to see the kind of person he might have become. No man, you have no apologies necessary, at least to me, buddy.

      • Hi, read your post on Aspergers elsewhere. I would love to connect with you and chat. My sister has Aspergers and I understand some of the challenges.

  • Wow, first time I’ve read an article & teared up as I personally remember some of the “loners” during my Jr. High & High School days. I do remember hurting for them & making a point to speak kindly to them. They didnt seem to appreciate my “sympathy” but I better understand why now. Hadn’t given it much thought until reading this.

    As you stated, God loves us all as his children and we are to love others as ourselves. Bullies/criminals either love themselves too much or do not love themselves at all. This world would be a much better place if parents would be parents rather than their friend & stop using TV, video games, computers, etc… as babysitters! Ok! I feel better getting that off my chest! Sorry you were a victim during what should have been the best times of your life but then again, you couldnt have written such an inspirational/educational piece! Thanks for sharing your story! 🙂

    • Thanks for the reply, I truly appreciate that. Thankfully I had a lot of revenge on those years, to the point where I feel okay even posting that bit of personal horror on the Internet, but a reply such as yours means quite a bit. Don’t know if you’re a parent, but I think you have all the heart to raise kids that would actually try to make a connection with those loners as you did yourself back in the day.

  • I totally get where you’re coming from.Junior High school was a truly miserable experience, and elementary and high school weren’t much better… it literally made me crazy and suicidal, the harassment and feelings of isolation… but, in retrospect, the truly tragic thing was that I wound up so wrapped up in my own misery, with my head so far up my ass, that in very large part I utterly failed to recognize that there were also a lot of people who liked me, and thought I was interesting and cool. Even when, in high school, the wrestling team, once they found out I was being harassed, explained to the bully that they’d turn him into a human pretzel if he didn’t quit it, and I wound up being elected to student government as class representative. I still thought no one liked me. It took me till my late twenties to straighten my head out enough to connect with people, and as Facebook has been a revelation as well, but that experience still drives me even now, when my life is way better, at 40. I suspect that most of these young men would have had similar experiences of they’d not gone off the deep end. If I could go back in time and talk to my 14 year old self, I would tell him: “Wake up! You’re surrounded by cool people who actually like you… some of them even actually have crushes on you. Yeah, seriously, they think your geeky bookworm dictionary reading habits are cool. Weird, huh? Focus on those people, forget about the bullies.”

    I didn’t even notice that, in Revenge of the Nerds, the nerd wins up with the insanely hot chick… I was so focused on the idea that they were me (and horrified). I even changed all my clothing in high school, in an attempt to escape the stereotype (dressed all in denim, grew a beard). Anyway… you struck a chord. Thanks.

    • If only we could go back and talk to our fourteen-year-old selves, right? How much different would things have been with a little advice from our perspectives now.

      ~~ Wake up! You’re surrounded by cool people who actually like you… some of them even actually have crushes on you. Yeah, seriously, they think your geeky bookworm dictionary reading habits are cool. ~~

      That’s rad. Yeah, if only we just grab our younger selves by the shoulders and have shook some sense into us.

      Everything’s for a reason. The picture I painted gives a bit of a one-dimensional portrait as I was focused on making a point, I did have some good memories of junior high and high school despite all of it and definitely had more than my share of revenge on those days once I got out (in a good, or at least, hedonistic kind of way) but I’m pretty pleased with how things shook out all in all.

      At the time you might not have caught the moral on the ending of Revenge of the Nerds, but I have a pretty good feeling you’ve got your own revenge (in a good way) yourself.

      Great hearing from you, hope to see you around.

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